First Name, Not Mom: The Rebirth Guide Back to You

This book is for the mother who forgot her own name

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About the Book

This book is for the mother who forgot her own name.
You give everything. You show up. You sacrifice. And somewhere along the way, you disappeared.
First Name, Not Mom is your wake-up call and your roadmap home.
Through 12 powerful chapters, Qiala Patrice guides you from the moment of recognition (when did I become just “Mom”?) through the small shifts that spark transformation, past the guilt and fear that try to pull you back, and into the woman you’re still becoming.
This isn’t about abandoning motherhood. It’s about reclaiming yourself within it.
Learn to:
Reconnect with your body, creativity, and desires
Set boundaries without guilt
Find yourself in just 30 minutes a day
Navigate the resistance that comes with change
Build a life where you can be both mother and you
Your rebirth doesn’t have to be loud. It can be gentle. And it starts with remembering your first name.

The Reclamation Method

Five pillars that spell my name back to you

Q- Questioning ‘Just Mom’

You are not “just” anything. This is where we challenge the lie that motherhood erased who you were before—that being a good mother means giving up everything else. You don’t have to choose between being a devoted parent and being a whole person. Those were never your only two options.

I- Intentional Becoming

Your transformation doesn’t require some dramatic life overhaul or burning everything down. This is about the small, purposeful shifts—the gentle changes that bring you back to yourself without blowing up your entire life. It’s about learning to trust yourself again, one small choice at a time.

A- At Home in Her Skin

This isn’t about “fixing” what’s wrong with you. It’s about actually living in your body again—reconnecting with the woman who got lost in all the giving. Self-care isn’t indulgent. Movement isn’t punishment. Rest isn’t lazy. It’s all an act of reclamation—taking back what motherhood tried to erase.

L- Lit from Within

When everything feels uncertain and you can barely hold yourself together, what keeps you steady? This is about the faith, the values, the quiet inner knowing that anchors you through the messiest parts of becoming. It’s the voice that whispers “you’re still becoming” when you feel completely gone.

A- A Life Without Apology

You’re allowed to want things that have nothing to do with your kids. Travel. Adventure. Experiences. Dreams that are just yours. Not someday when they’re grown—now. This is about living fully without shrinking, without guilt, without waiting for permission that’s never coming.

What’s Inside

256 pages. 12 chapters that take you from the moment you realize you’ve disappeared to the woman you’re becoming.
This isn’t theory. It’s not a 10-step system or a quick fix. It’s the honest, messy, beautiful truth about finding your way back to yourself—30 minutes at a time—while still being the mother you want to be.

Who This Book Is For

This book is for you if:

You can list everything your kids are interested in but go blank when someone asks about you

You love your children fiercely but miss who you were before them

you give 30-second answers when someone asks how you are

You can’t remember the last time you did something just because you wanted to

You’re tired of feeling guilty for wanting anything for yourself

You’re ready to stop disappearing and start becoming again

Start Your Journey

Your rebirth doesn’t have to be loud. It can be gentle. And it starts with remembering your first name.

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