You’re More Than “Just Mom”
And it’s time to live like it.
Somewhere between diapers and car pools, you disappeared. You’re exhausted in a way sleep can’t fix. Guilty for wanting anything for yourself. A ghost in your own life.
But gone doesn’t mean irretrievable.
Start where it feels safest.
You’re Not Lost. You’re Trapped.
You know who you are. The woman who loved art, who stayed up late talking about ideas that mattered, who moved through the world with purpose.
She’s still in there.
But motherhood built walls around her—invisible ones made of “good mom” expectations, exhaustion that never ends, and guilt that whispers you’re selfish for wanting anything for yourself.
You’re not asking to abandon your children. You’re asking for permission to exist outside of them.
What if I told you reclaiming yourself isn’t selfish—it’s sacred?
First Name, Not Mom: The Rebirth Guide Back to You
A memoir for mothers who are tired of being invisible
This is the book I needed when I was standing in my bathroom at 2 AM, staring at a stranger in the mirror.
It’s part story, part roadmap. I’ll show you how I found my way back—not to who I was before kids, but to who I’m still becoming. And I’ll give you the tools to do the same.
Inside, you’ll discover The Reclamation Method:
→ Questioning “Just Mom” – Identity reclamation
→ Intentional Becoming – Gentle transformation
→ At Home in Her Skin – Self-care, body, rest
→ Lit from Within – Faith and grounding
→ A Life Without Apology – Freedom without guilt
I’m Qiala, and I Almost Forgot My Own Name
For years, I was “Mom” first. Always. My needs disappeared. My dreams went quiet. I became a woman I didn’t recognize.
But somewhere between Pilates classes, paint-stained hands, and brutal honesty with myself, I found her again. Not the woman I was before—the woman I’m still becoming.
Now I help other mothers do the same. Because you deserve to exist fully—not just as someone’s mother, but as yourself.
Start Your Reclamation Here
You don’t have to be ready. You just have to be honest.