Qiala Patrice
You didn’t lose yourself.
You forgot to look.
The book, the talks, the work. It’s all one invitation back to who you actually are.
For Women Who Carry a Lot
This is for the women who hold the room together quietly. The ones who keep showing up for everyone else while quietly disappearing from their own lives. I write, speak, and create for the woman who is tired of performing wellness and ready to actually come home to herself.
“What if the woman you used to be is still in there, waiting to be remembered?” — the question at the center of everything I do
WHO I WRITE AND SPEAK FOR
Meet your speaker
Hi, I’m Qiala
I am not the loudest voice in the room and that is on purpose. I am a witness, not a performer. When I write, when I speak, when I show up, I am not bringing hype or a highlight reel. I am bringing presence, honest stories, and language for the things women have been carrying without a name.
I am the author of First Name, Not Mom, founder of Still Becoming Media, and creator of Comb Through, a 12-week program built on the C.O.M.B. Method: Call Her Back, Own Your Time, Move Scared, Become. I write and speak for women who are tired of surface-level inspiration. They want something real, and they want to feel met where they actually are.
What I bring to every room:
A Steady, Honest Presence
I do not overwhelm a room. I ground it. I lead with calm, intention, and the kind of stillness that gives people permission to exhale.
A Message That Lands
My work is rooted in lived experience and the C.O.M.B. Method. It meets women in the moments they are usually too tired or too ashamed to name out loud.
Insight That Stays With Them
I connect naturally, even in large rooms. People leave feeling personally seen, not just generally inspired, and they remember the conversation long after.
Impact That Keeps Working
I plant language and questions that keep doing the work after the event ends. Women walk away thinking, feeling, and quietly becoming.
“Qiala did not just speak to our audience, she spoke to the woman each of them had quietly tucked away.”
Her message was honest, grounded, and exactly what the room needed. She created space for real reflection, and days later, people were still talking about how seen they felt.
TALKS THAT MEET WOMEN WHERE THEY ARE
Speaking Topics
I create talks for women who are tired of performing wellness and ready to actually feel met. Every talk is rooted in my book and the C.O.M.B. Method: Call Her Back, Own Your Time, Move Scared, Become. They are built for women who are leading, caregiving, or quietly holding it all together.
Name It to Claim It: From the Audience to the Stage
I had already written my way back to myself in First Name, Not Mom. Then I sat in an audience at work, watched a woman speak, and knew exactly what came next. This talk is for the people who have made work their whole world and stopped asking what they want for themselves. You are allowed to want something. Name it, and you can start to claim it.
The Questions She Stopped Asking
Rooted in Call Her Back, the first phase of my C.O.M.B. Method, this talk is about the quiet cost of stopping. Somewhere in motherhood, I stopped asking what I wanted, what was true, and who I was becoming. When I started asking again, I became a better mom, because I could finally help my son figure out who he was. Finding yourself does not take something from your kids. It gives them something. And sometimes the most honest answer is no.
Move Scared
Fear of failing. Fear of disapproval. Fear of not being good enough. I felt all of it while writing my book, and I did it anyway. I set a deadline I would not miss, booked the signing before I felt ready, and kept it quiet until it was done. This talk gives any audience the same simple moves to stop waiting on courage and start before they feel ready. Not everyone will like you, and that is okay.
NOW BOOKING FOR 2027
Bring this conversation to your stage
I am currently booking keynotes, workshops, and panel conversations for women’s conferences, parenting communities, neurodivergent and mental health spaces, corporate wellness gatherings, and faith-rooted events. If you are creating space for women to slow down and remember themselves, I would love to be considered.
WORK WITH ME 1:1
Comb Through
Twelve weeks to walk all the way back, with the book as our guide. Together we move through the C.O.M.B. Method: Call Her Back, Own Your Time, Move Scared, Become.
For the woman who has read the book and doesn’t want to do the rest alone.
A GIFT TO START WITH
Read the first chapter of First Name, Not Mom
Download the opening chapter of my memoir. It is a quiet invitation to pause, take a breath, and remember the woman you have been carrying inside all along. No performance required. Just honesty, and a little space to feel met.